“Come On Get Happy!”
by Tiana Star
The Partridge Familyās theme song, āCome On Get Happy!ā should be something we should sing and strive for. Happiness, though a beautiful state of being, seems to be so hard to attain at times. According to the infographic by TypCut below, If you are happy, keep doing what you’re doing, but if you’re not, you need to change something, and quick! Ā And perhaps, if we would change our minds and attitudes, being (and staying) happy wouldnāt seem so hard. Is there a way of changing our mindset to help us be more joyful and happy on a daily basis? I believe there is.
Letās start with looking at children. Children seem to exude happiness no matter what life brings. Perhaps it is because theyāre still excited to go for a walk, play at the park, eat an ice-cream cone, and just laugh and giggle about anything silly. They appreciate all the little things in life, and take great joy in those things.
Perhaps if we learned from these sweet children, and took the time to literally smell the roses, lie down and look up at the sky to watch the clouds, appreciate the fact that weāre alive, our minds would start to change and we could be happy.
I found an interesting article on āgetting happyā and a list of things to do to change your mindset. Coach Emrick ((Life Coach Emric’s Blog) listed the following as a Recipe for Happiness :
Every day, wake up with a smile and be grateful for:
1. What you have, your health, your body, your spouse, your family, etc
2. What you did: vacation, parties, restaurant, entertainment, etc
3. What you are: healthy, richer than average, good work, appreciated, etc .
Make a list of all these in 3 columns. You will be amazed.
Too many of us are taking our possessions, our state, and our gifts in general for granted. Avoid thinking readily of what you donāt have. This is a reflex too many people have.ā )
Iād like to continue on with what Mr. Emric said, and that that we should AVOID thinking about we donāt have, and that we should think about and be thankful for what we do have! These statements are simple, but not always easy. I think this is a great place to start and can really help us change our thinking from negative to positive- which is truly a recipe for more happiness in our lives!
Letās add some more flavors to this recipe of happiness, yes? āŗ
Thereās a really cool article on Positive Thinking, (Positive Thinking Checklist) and one of their tricks is to replace negative thoughts with positive ones.
For instance, Have you ever said, āIām getting sick.ā Instead, try replacing that statement with, āIām fighting this off.ā Our minds are so powerful. We need to stop allowing negative statements with our mouths and our minds to continue. Hereās another example. āIām so stupid, I canāt believe I did that.ā Thatās very negative self -talk, and especially since most people say those things to other people as well. Try replacing that statement with, āOh, I made a mistake, but let me see how I can fix that for the future.ā
If you have a moment, perhaps think about any negative self- talk (or negativity towards others) and think about how you can replace that negativity with positive and happy thoughts! Your life will truly begin to change the day you start this! I mean, come on, who likes people that are mean to them? So donāt be mean to yourself or others! Start with YOU!
Now that weāve talked about all the exciting ways we can change our lives to be more happy, letās end with āletting go.ā The truth is, we can only control ourselves, and although that is a lot, Ā there will be situations, and people, that we have no control over. We can use these new tips and advice to help us focus on the good, but that doesnāt mean we wonāt go through hard times. It just means perhaps we can appreciate our favorite ice-cream while crying. (ha).
But I think it is important to learn to control what we can (like ourselves and our attitudes) and then let go of what we canāt.
Iād like to end with an excerpt from The Serenity Prayer by Reinhold Niebuhr
āGrant me the serenity āØto accept the things I cannot change; āØcourage to change the things I can;āØand wisdom to know the difference.ā